Now, isn't this a great topic? With the beginning of mechanisms, the marriage season seems to be niggling up on us.(oh yeah it is!) Every year thousands of couples toss away their individual way of life (which is the best and they shouldn’t have) and unite as one. And thus, they enter into the world of matrimony.(doomsday!)
They, (parents, aunties, uncles, grandmas, grandpas, friends, relatives, nosy, specially old ladies!) have made it clear that, when you grow up, you better get your damn self married ASAP! During my childhood, I had a dream to get married, and then live happily ever after. Well (hahahahha LOL), the thought of living the rest of my life happily ever after with my husband(I dreamt of a Chinese / Caucasian man) was something I kinda like anticipated for (hey, I was a kid!). Of course that was the time when I was so damn bloody innocent and naive.
However, later on in life, I learnt a lot and been through lots of period. No, I meant phase. I have seen the consequences and damages because of a mix of marriage, children, money, milk, food, play, lotsa stuffs and school! I know how my parents had struggled and worked hard to provide us all with the best of everything, i.e. fine education, food, clothes…etc, everything was provided for us. At that time of my age, I did not really thought about it. And it makes me wonder now, how they’ve done it so well and successfully. God, I’m so grateful for having such wonderful parents. I love you Paa. I love you Maa. (Daddy’s gal)
Yeah, back to the point. Likewise, most people feel like as though their life will only really begin once they get married. Once upon a time, a friend of mine told me this “Tilla, just get married and you’ll see the difference. You’ll see life in a different aspect. I feel much more responsible and committed. It’s just so beautiful”. Duhhh…LAME! Like, who cares? Damn pathetic. However, there are some things to mull over if you are thinking of getting married in your near future. Divorce figures being one of them (Hahaha….No, I’m not scaring you guys). Seriously, I’m not just saying this, and I don’t mean to worry you people…no offense but, that’s how I feel. It’s not that marriage is gonna lead you to a divorce but, I just don’t see why the rush? Yeah, we’re not getting any younger, especially for the girls. Hell, why us? And men get to marry when they reach their 30’s? Where’s the fun for us? Damn!
Though there is nothing more beautiful than seeing couples in love, I find it horrible that some of these couples may be thinking of marriage so early in life. You see, thoughts of marriage are planted in us at an early age itself. I wouldn’t blame anyone as it happens in a way where people have sort of glue it in their mind that when a girl turns 21, start looking mapilai for her! Bluehkh! Shoot ‘em dead! Then, there’s this uncle of mine who just can’t stop looking one for me and my sister! (Can we shoot him, Paa? Pweeeease) Whenever I attend a wedding or a birthday party, (bear in mind that these are the Indian weddings and parties), the one and only question that would pop out of their senget mouth is “So, when are you getting married? When’s your turn? Why wait?” yeah that’s more then one question but, all with the same ‘ol intention.
Is it really that awfully important? You get to know this person, who you think you’re in love with (or probably arranged). Next get married, and later? Errr… Ok, you live together, and no more depending on your parents. Then probably have kids. Life goes on, rite… Then? Yeah, we learn how to live with each other. Then again, you can do it all when the right time comes. Some couples rush into marriage not for the reason that they’re ready and committed. God damn! It so happens because people are so worried of the society! “Oh my god, they’re married? What about me? When will I get married? What will my (there’re always a few annoying ones) aunties, uncles, some jealous so called friends, backdoor neighbors, front door neighbors, and nosy neighbors, think of me? Will they think I ain’t good enough? My goodness, I need to find someone...” Things like that or maybe, “My goodness, I've gotta talk with my boyfriend/girlfriend! Or probably even, “Oh my goodness! I don't have a boyfriend/girlfriend! What am I gonna do??? The world’s gonna end soooon!!! Noooooooo!!!” See, they get paranoid! C'mon, we're living for ourselves and our lovely family. Not for them (Oh! I just can’t type it all over again). Screw ‘em!
Got it! Tilla’s uncle! Yes! He can help (yeah for sure!). If you need his number, I'll be ever willing to give it away.(and he’s fast in finding one)
What I'm tryin to say is that, if you think you are ready to unite with your other half, then go ahead. No one's gonna hold you back. I have my opinions and this is what I sense n believe. Though sometimes I do feel like having a baby (sometimes). I remember asking this once to my boyfriend. Well, a couple of times actually. And he answered oh so tenderly, "We'll have babies, baby. Don't worry". (Yeay!!!) The thought of it made me delighted and I was smiling all the way (for a minute or two). Then, (gasp!) it faded. It's not all as easy as it seems.
To add on, I just received a call from my boyfriend. And I asked him, "Baby, lets get married?" (Note that, “I” had to ask him) and he said, "Okayyyyyyyy!" Yeah, sounds great rite? Think twice, or five or even seventeen times... (Before you rush into things) Set some restrictions. Find out, talk and confirm if your other half is really ready and agrees for this as well. Think if it’s really worth it. Is he/she the one?
But then again, love is something that you just can’t avoid or even own. It just happens and it makes you stupid! It’s true. (No, not dumb…you just get blinded by it) That’s what love is all about. It’s something so precious and you just can’t let it go. It hurts but you still hang on to it cuz it’s just so damn precious! So, when the exact time comes, I'll show you how Tilla got married alluringly...For now, I need a break (need some time to think about it over)
Screw those nosy idiotssssss..! There! I've said it! But we all know I wouldn’t say that stuff. NO! What I’d really like to say to them are things that would sound even scratchier. I gotta be cautious though. Don’t wanna upset (like as if I care!) anyone. (Damn! I’m just too polite, huh?)
So yeah, Screw ‘em!
They, (parents, aunties, uncles, grandmas, grandpas, friends, relatives, nosy, specially old ladies!) have made it clear that, when you grow up, you better get your damn self married ASAP! During my childhood, I had a dream to get married, and then live happily ever after. Well (hahahahha LOL), the thought of living the rest of my life happily ever after with my husband(I dreamt of a Chinese / Caucasian man) was something I kinda like anticipated for (hey, I was a kid!). Of course that was the time when I was so damn bloody innocent and naive.
However, later on in life, I learnt a lot and been through lots of period. No, I meant phase. I have seen the consequences and damages because of a mix of marriage, children, money, milk, food, play, lotsa stuffs and school! I know how my parents had struggled and worked hard to provide us all with the best of everything, i.e. fine education, food, clothes…etc, everything was provided for us. At that time of my age, I did not really thought about it. And it makes me wonder now, how they’ve done it so well and successfully. God, I’m so grateful for having such wonderful parents. I love you Paa. I love you Maa. (Daddy’s gal)
Yeah, back to the point. Likewise, most people feel like as though their life will only really begin once they get married. Once upon a time, a friend of mine told me this “Tilla, just get married and you’ll see the difference. You’ll see life in a different aspect. I feel much more responsible and committed. It’s just so beautiful”. Duhhh…LAME! Like, who cares? Damn pathetic. However, there are some things to mull over if you are thinking of getting married in your near future. Divorce figures being one of them (Hahaha….No, I’m not scaring you guys). Seriously, I’m not just saying this, and I don’t mean to worry you people…no offense but, that’s how I feel. It’s not that marriage is gonna lead you to a divorce but, I just don’t see why the rush? Yeah, we’re not getting any younger, especially for the girls. Hell, why us? And men get to marry when they reach their 30’s? Where’s the fun for us? Damn!
Though there is nothing more beautiful than seeing couples in love, I find it horrible that some of these couples may be thinking of marriage so early in life. You see, thoughts of marriage are planted in us at an early age itself. I wouldn’t blame anyone as it happens in a way where people have sort of glue it in their mind that when a girl turns 21, start looking mapilai for her! Bluehkh! Shoot ‘em dead! Then, there’s this uncle of mine who just can’t stop looking one for me and my sister! (Can we shoot him, Paa? Pweeeease) Whenever I attend a wedding or a birthday party, (bear in mind that these are the Indian weddings and parties), the one and only question that would pop out of their senget mouth is “So, when are you getting married? When’s your turn? Why wait?” yeah that’s more then one question but, all with the same ‘ol intention.
Is it really that awfully important? You get to know this person, who you think you’re in love with (or probably arranged). Next get married, and later? Errr… Ok, you live together, and no more depending on your parents. Then probably have kids. Life goes on, rite… Then? Yeah, we learn how to live with each other. Then again, you can do it all when the right time comes. Some couples rush into marriage not for the reason that they’re ready and committed. God damn! It so happens because people are so worried of the society! “Oh my god, they’re married? What about me? When will I get married? What will my (there’re always a few annoying ones) aunties, uncles, some jealous so called friends, backdoor neighbors, front door neighbors, and nosy neighbors, think of me? Will they think I ain’t good enough? My goodness, I need to find someone...” Things like that or maybe, “My goodness, I've gotta talk with my boyfriend/girlfriend! Or probably even, “Oh my goodness! I don't have a boyfriend/girlfriend! What am I gonna do??? The world’s gonna end soooon!!! Noooooooo!!!” See, they get paranoid! C'mon, we're living for ourselves and our lovely family. Not for them (Oh! I just can’t type it all over again). Screw ‘em!
Got it! Tilla’s uncle! Yes! He can help (yeah for sure!). If you need his number, I'll be ever willing to give it away.(and he’s fast in finding one)
What I'm tryin to say is that, if you think you are ready to unite with your other half, then go ahead. No one's gonna hold you back. I have my opinions and this is what I sense n believe. Though sometimes I do feel like having a baby (sometimes). I remember asking this once to my boyfriend. Well, a couple of times actually. And he answered oh so tenderly, "We'll have babies, baby. Don't worry". (Yeay!!!) The thought of it made me delighted and I was smiling all the way (for a minute or two). Then, (gasp!) it faded. It's not all as easy as it seems.
To add on, I just received a call from my boyfriend. And I asked him, "Baby, lets get married?" (Note that, “I” had to ask him) and he said, "Okayyyyyyyy!" Yeah, sounds great rite? Think twice, or five or even seventeen times... (Before you rush into things) Set some restrictions. Find out, talk and confirm if your other half is really ready and agrees for this as well. Think if it’s really worth it. Is he/she the one?
But then again, love is something that you just can’t avoid or even own. It just happens and it makes you stupid! It’s true. (No, not dumb…you just get blinded by it) That’s what love is all about. It’s something so precious and you just can’t let it go. It hurts but you still hang on to it cuz it’s just so damn precious! So, when the exact time comes, I'll show you how Tilla got married alluringly...For now, I need a break (need some time to think about it over)
Screw those nosy idiotssssss..! There! I've said it! But we all know I wouldn’t say that stuff. NO! What I’d really like to say to them are things that would sound even scratchier. I gotta be cautious though. Don’t wanna upset (like as if I care!) anyone. (Damn! I’m just too polite, huh?)
So yeah, Screw ‘em!
